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Post by Sef on Oct 28, 2017 10:31:59 GMT -5
If you could write a letter to anyone - friends, family, spouse - about your situation, what would you say?
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Post by Sef on Dec 3, 2017 23:09:13 GMT -5
Every year, my mother-in-law writes a Family Christmas Newsletter that she sends to "Friends and Family." The theme is generally how wonderful everything in her life is. She usually doesn't bother to mention her only son or her daughter-in-law (that would be me), since I guess she thinks it would make for depressing "news" in her holiday letter. I'm seriously considering writing my own "Family Newsletter" this year...  |
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Post by drowning on Dec 6, 2017 7:43:24 GMT -5
Oh, I hate those letters....my SIL used to send them...made me throw up in my mouth a little to read them☺ She probably still sends them, but she cut me off her card list years ago thank goodness. Sef, I guess you and your husband just don't fit into the fairy tale she is spinning.
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Post by bluecrabgirl on Dec 8, 2017 20:42:44 GMT -5
I've written those letters, but include all the health problems my husband has. I admittedly try to find some positive points, but there's only so much you can sugar coat things. I've since stopped writing and sending letters. I didn't even send the mass Christmas card mailing last year, and I won't this year. I send a card to people I really want to smile and think of us, but not the obligatory card any longer.
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Post by Sef on Dec 9, 2017 8:57:14 GMT -5
I wouldn't mind getting a holiday letter, but anybody who knows my MIL knows it's all BS. "Took a wonderful trip in September to see my beloved brother," when we knew her brother told them to leave after 3 days because he was sick and tired of her meddling. That sort of thing. She finally took us off her distribution list, which is fine by me. My dad still gets her letter, and he and I have a good chuckle over it. Thank God for my dad.
If I could write any letter, though, and not feel guilt over it or not end up being the 'bad guy'...I'd write to my MIL with a copy to B's adult son, asking why they turned their backs on B (and frankly, me too) when he needed family the most. Throughout this whole ordeal, I guess that's what I have struggled with the most besides the illness itself. His mother came up for a rare visit last week, but had nothing much to say. This is a man who hiked mountains a few years ago; now he can't walk, can barely use either of his hands, and has speech and cognitive impairment. That doesn't concern them? Her excuse is, "Well, we're old and we can't travel up there as much as we would like." It's not even about being here; it's about showing, even in some small way, that you care. She'll never get it.
Anyway...sorry for the rant.
Bluecrabgirl -- I'm with you. I'm sending a couple of cards this year, but that's it.
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